Spending all your time together, having the same social circle, becoming friends with each other friends, and giving your partner no space, might seem cute or romantic at first, but it's not.
It lacks healthy boundaries , and over time, can be problematic. A healthy relationship is founded on trust, and when someone tries to control your every move, the message it gives out is that they don't trust you. This can breed resentment, and cause unnecessary conflict. For this reason, it is important to address the issue before it builds up. When we don't honestly and openly communicate with each other, we make assumptions about the other person. But the only person who can tell you what's happening with your controlling partner, is your partner. So, talk about it.
Tell them how you feel, and exactly what they do that makes you feel this way. Someone who has a controlling streak is also likely to be short-tempered. So, it is crucial that you stay calm and composed while you talk things out Set boundaries! This becomes all the more important when you're with someone who likes to micromanage your life.
Partners are each other's mirrors. Instead of trying to dodge, or fight, or ignore the issue, show them the mirror, and reclaim the power. Most of us go out of our way to control things around us, because we actually feel like we have no control, and that can be a terrifying thought for some people. Aggression often comes from a place of hurt. So, before you lose your shit over your partner's aggressive and controlling behaviour, try to understand their reasons. For all you know, they might just be scared of losing you!
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